Summer Loving

Sexpert Opinion

A lot of people I know seem to be born in Springtime. I seem to have no shortage of birthday parties — mine included —from September right through until Summer. There may be a number of reasons for this, but one has to be that nine months before these people were born, their parents were in the middle of Summer, and Summer seems to make people want to shag.

Take a step outside in the Summer sun and people are everywhere, wearing very little, staying out later, they seem to be happier, flirtier, there is a lot more playful body contact, and this naturally leads to feelings of sexuality and urges for sexual activity. As someone wise once said, ‘it doesn’t matter where you get your appetite, as long as you’re home for dinner’. And for a lot of my Spring-born friends, dinner was served right on time.

For a lot of people, however, Summer sends them indoors, into dark and airconditioned homes and offices. Some people prefer to re-create winter when the Summer heats up, and this can only prevent them from cashing in on the sexual vibes all around us and some much-needed Summer loving.

Winter sex can be just as enjoyable as Summer sex, but for different reasons. It’s cold, which is conducive to feelings of wanting to huddle and be close and intimate with our partners. But it has its place in the middle of the year, and it’s important that we move with the seasons and embrace the conditions that are in front of us, even if we are Winter people deep down. Doing so helps us to make the most of the feelings, emotions and passions of the season.

Summer is about heat, but it’s also about moisture. People are at the pools or the beach getting wet, people are slapping on sunscreen, downing ice-creams and iced-drinks, Summer fruit is always so moist and succulent — peaches, nectarines, mangoes, watermelon, it’s all around us, and it’s a very sexual environment.

Summer sex is about embracing that heat, and also that energy and that moisture. Summer sex is also about fun. In the bedroom, don’t shy away from the moisture. Enhance the experience by bringing some oils and lubricants into the bedroom. Enhance the feelings of playful body contact by getting things started with a playful but sensual massage. Don’t be afraid to bring ice cubes, ice-cream and luscious fruits into the bedroom, and let the heat of summer drive your sexual experiences. It’ll turn the staunchest of Winter people into Summer lovers. 

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